Well, the past few months have been a bit of a rollercoaster ride, here in Mel-land.
The Mister has had some stomach issues since March, I would say. In the end of April, he came down with something and was home sick for a few days. I thought I knew what it might be from, but didn't make him go to the doctor because it went away and he felt better. Until 2 weeks later, when he woke me up at 3 AM to take him to the emergency room. He was in excruciating pain, he'd been up since midnight being ill. The ER nurses had to pump him full of pain meds (which he has a ridiculously high tolerance for) and an ultrasound tech came to examine him with her magic wand.
The verdict: he had gallbladder disease. The offending organ would need to be removed for him to have any lasting relief. Time to panic--we don't have insurance. But he needed to be taken care of, so...he went in for surgery. Where they found out that he had some giant gall stones. Stones that were so big, he'd have to go back in the following day for another procedure to remove them from his bile duct.
So he spent 2 nights in the hospital. He was pretty sore afterwards, from the gas they push into the abdominal cavity to see things while they poke around with their mad scientist instruments. When I had my gallbladder out in 2004, he called to see how I was doing after surgery. I told him my shoulder was sore from the gas rising and he said, "Why does your shoulder hurt? Were they standing on it when they yanked your gallbladder out?" To which I laughed, causing even more knife-like pain, then I had to call him an asshole.
Luckily for him, I didn't try to make any jokes. I just tried to take care of him and make him more comfortable while he healed.
But wait! There's more!
Because that wasn't enough of a health issue....a couple weeks after he came home from the hospital, he developed some strange sore on his forearm. When he went in to have it looked at (since it was extremely painful and causing his hand/wrist to swell), they said it was an infected cyst. They had to cut open his arm and do tortuous things to it to get the infection dealt with. This was followed up with an oral antibiotic.
Apparently that didn't matter all that much, because 2 days later, the same type of sore grew on his other forearm. Completely weird, completely random, extremely painful for him. They didn't try the torture on the new one, just let the antibiotics do their thing...which took another week, but it did go away eventually.
Between surgery, recovery, and then this infection, the Mister missed about 3 weeks of work. Since he works completely on commission....this totally sucked.
But wait!! There's more!!
Around this time, a long-term friendship was abruptly terminated. A guy friend I've known for 5 1/2 years, who started a new relationship with a formerly ok-with-me chick, gave in to her insecurity and stopped talking to me, because our "relationship" was a form of "emotional infidelity." Which is such complete bullshit. Aside from the fact that I'm a girl, and he's a boy, our friendship has never been a big deal to anyone....well, except me, because I'm an antisocial introvert who has a hard time making & keeping friends.
Our friendship continued through a lot of ups and downs through both of our lives, which I thought made it a stronger connection. It was never anything but platonic.
Did I picture him shirtless atop a big black stallion? No. Did I want to buy him a beer at the end of a long day? Yes.
Did I imagine him hosing off in the sun after working on the car? Nope. Did I want to hug him after a really tough decision or big exciting news? Sure.
Well, I must be a horrible person, a home-wrecker, and a general bad influence.
Then again, since he was mostly an internet friend, maybe he made up the neurotic girlfriend and decided he didn't want to be a friend anymore because I didn't picture him atop that stallion, or hosing off. Or hosing off on top of the stallion. Whatever.
All I know is that there's a pretty big hole in my life now and I miss him a lot, even though I want to slap him.
But wait!!! There's more!!!
While trying to do things on my 5-year-old iMac, it suddenly decided to argue with me. I got stuck in a loop of "there's issues, restart" so I'd restart and then get the same message. I tried different things, looked it up on the internet on my iPad (thankfully, I had that at least), but it seemed as though my first Mac was going on strike.
So I took it to a local Apple repair shop and the verdict wasn't good: my hard drive was fried and it was going to be almost $400 to repair it. After the Mister missing so much work from being sick, this was pretty much the worst time for it to happen. Ugh.
But wait!!!! There's MORE!!!!
I believe it was the day of, or the day after we got my computer back, that the Mister had to go into the crawl space for something. Where he discovered, horror of horrors, that...it was flooded. It seems that the pipe leading to the spigot on the outside of the house had cracked at some point, and every time we used the hose, the crawlspace got sprayed. Since I'd been trying to keep on top of watering my strawberry plants, this was a relatively frequent occurrence.
The bad part: we'd been using the crawl space (it's large enough) for storage. The good part: most of the stuff we put down there was in totes. The bad part: not all of it.
Our Christmas tree, that we bought our first year here, was a rusty mess. Some Christmas decorations and various household items were damaged from being immersed as well. A box of our financial stuff for the last few years got soaked. And a big box of clothes I'd put down there got sprayed and wet and stinky.
We had to call a restoration business to come and suck out all the water, run fans and a dehumidifier for a few days. I cringe at the thought of what our power bill will be. Eep!
We had to file a claim because of the amount of stuff involved, but I'm just happy it wasn't worse.
But WAIT!!!!! There's MORE!!!!!
I've been dealing with some health issues--here and there stuff that I didn't think was a very big deal. It finally got to be too much and I went to see my doctor. She ran some blood tests and ultimately diagnosed me with having PCOS, Poly-Cystic Ovarian Syndrome. It boils down to hormone imbalances and insulin-resistance. I'm not diabetic or pre-diabetic, but I could get there thanks to PCOS, because it's probably been the main reason I've gained weight and haven't been able to lose it, no matter how hard I try. On top of the weight, there's been facial hair, oily skin, acne, high blood pressure, and fatigue to deal with.
The number one way of dealing with PCOS: diet and exercise. My doctor also put me on a medicine to help regulate my hormones (hopefully). The nutritionist I spoke with seems to be very anti-pharma, and says that this is my wake-up call, and if I stop eating wheat and dairy products and exercise a lot, with the right supplements, I won't need any prescriptions. I say, I'll moderately adjust my (not unhealthy) diet and exercise more, but how about we wait and see if the (cheap, once-daily) prescription helps me in any way before I just decide to pay up the wazoo for 6 or 7 expensive supplements that I'll have to choke down multiple times a day. As well as give up wheat and dairy? Wheat, maybe; dairy, HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAno. What's the point in living if you're miserably denying yourself things that are delicious? Like cheese, cream cheese, milk, cheesecake, ice cream, cottage cheese, yogurt, sour cream......
Anyway. That's catch-up. Hopefully, there's not more now. The Mister isn't allowed to get sick anymore, I'm being treated for my lady stuff, the house and computer got to have their tantrums, so that's that.
I'm off to find something to snack on. Like macaroni and cheese. mmmmm, cheese.
Saturday, July 13, 2013
Thursday, June 13, 2013
Tough day
Today I'm grateful for a job that allows me to be alone in the office for awhile so no one can see me cry.
Saturday, January 26, 2013
Oh, the whooshing!
In March 2011, I came down with a cold. It was the standard head cold--plugged nose, scratchy throat, and occasionally plugged up ears.
It lasted a few days and went away, except for one symptom: noise in my ear. Not just any noise, not a ringing or a roaring, but a whooshing sound, like the sound of a heartbeat on an ultrasound. Very distinct, and sometimes loud enough that I couldn't concentrate.
So I saw my doctor, who basically told me it was because I had a blocked eustachian tube that was keeping fluid in my ear. The tube was blocked because my tonsil was swollen, from being sick. She told me to give it a few weeks and hopefully it would clear up.
I waited a few weeks, which turned into a couple months, and when I went back for my physical in the summer, I told her the noise was still there. Her reaction was basically a shrug and she told me to wait longer still, since those tubes can be tricky.
I waited.
And I waited.
And I waited some more.
The noise never went away. Sometimes it was quieter, and if I forced myself to concentrate on relaxing and breathing carefully, it would almost disappear. And sometimes, generally at night, it would get so loud that I'd be unable to get to sleep.
When I saw my doctor last summer for my physical, I told her again of the noise and she told me that maybe I should get my hearing checked, to make sure I hadn't had any hearing loss. Yes, the noise was that loud--it drowned out the sound of other things unless they were really loud, too.
Well, I went one better: yesterday, I saw an Ear Nose & Throat specialist. He looked in my ears and mouth with some funky instruments--and couldn't find anything visibly wrong. He looked at the MRI I had done when I had the eye drama and didn't see anything wrong with my ear in that, either
But, he gave me a name--veinous hum (which sounds like "venus hum", which sounds like a sex trick to me--but I'm a perv).
Apparently I have a blood vessel pressing up against something in my ear, and the flow of blood is causing the noise. My options for treatment are surgical; I can have them tie off my jugular vein on the right side, but he said that more blood vessels would grow in, so it's not likely to work in the long run. Or he could try to find the blood vessel, which is likely minute, and "disconnect" it. The possibility of that working is even more unlikely because there's so many blood vessels and some are microscopic, so he wouldn't even necessarily be able to locate it.
So frustrating. I'm beginning to think the right side of my head is going on strike. At least I don't hear voices in my ear, though...
yet.
It lasted a few days and went away, except for one symptom: noise in my ear. Not just any noise, not a ringing or a roaring, but a whooshing sound, like the sound of a heartbeat on an ultrasound. Very distinct, and sometimes loud enough that I couldn't concentrate.
So I saw my doctor, who basically told me it was because I had a blocked eustachian tube that was keeping fluid in my ear. The tube was blocked because my tonsil was swollen, from being sick. She told me to give it a few weeks and hopefully it would clear up.
I waited a few weeks, which turned into a couple months, and when I went back for my physical in the summer, I told her the noise was still there. Her reaction was basically a shrug and she told me to wait longer still, since those tubes can be tricky.
I waited.
And I waited.
And I waited some more.
The noise never went away. Sometimes it was quieter, and if I forced myself to concentrate on relaxing and breathing carefully, it would almost disappear. And sometimes, generally at night, it would get so loud that I'd be unable to get to sleep.
When I saw my doctor last summer for my physical, I told her again of the noise and she told me that maybe I should get my hearing checked, to make sure I hadn't had any hearing loss. Yes, the noise was that loud--it drowned out the sound of other things unless they were really loud, too.
Well, I went one better: yesterday, I saw an Ear Nose & Throat specialist. He looked in my ears and mouth with some funky instruments--and couldn't find anything visibly wrong. He looked at the MRI I had done when I had the eye drama and didn't see anything wrong with my ear in that, either
But, he gave me a name--veinous hum (which sounds like "venus hum", which sounds like a sex trick to me--but I'm a perv).
Apparently I have a blood vessel pressing up against something in my ear, and the flow of blood is causing the noise. My options for treatment are surgical; I can have them tie off my jugular vein on the right side, but he said that more blood vessels would grow in, so it's not likely to work in the long run. Or he could try to find the blood vessel, which is likely minute, and "disconnect" it. The possibility of that working is even more unlikely because there's so many blood vessels and some are microscopic, so he wouldn't even necessarily be able to locate it.
So frustrating. I'm beginning to think the right side of my head is going on strike. At least I don't hear voices in my ear, though...
yet.
Sunday, January 06, 2013
Closing a Chapter
....or so I thought.
I was fully prepared for 2012 to be over and 2013 to be the start of a great year.
Last year sucked. Hard. It was the worst year I can remember having. So bad, in fact, I can't even bring myself to do a year-in-review because it might bring on a serious pity party.
As the Mister & I rang in the new year, I felt hopeful and optimistic and so sure that things were going to finally move into a more positive direction.
Well, that didn't really happen.
On January 2nd, the Mister lost his job.
For a second year in a row, the Mister doesn't have a job at the new year.
I feel like our life is going somewhere dark and depressing.
blah.
I was fully prepared for 2012 to be over and 2013 to be the start of a great year.
Last year sucked. Hard. It was the worst year I can remember having. So bad, in fact, I can't even bring myself to do a year-in-review because it might bring on a serious pity party.
As the Mister & I rang in the new year, I felt hopeful and optimistic and so sure that things were going to finally move into a more positive direction.
Well, that didn't really happen.
On January 2nd, the Mister lost his job.
For a second year in a row, the Mister doesn't have a job at the new year.
I feel like our life is going somewhere dark and depressing.
blah.
Tuesday, December 11, 2012
Bits & Pieces
Stuff seems pretty random and scattered right now. Current events include:
A big, white, long-haired kitty is staying with us. He doesn't like the dogs, but he wants to be friends with Smudge. Smudge, however, doesn't like him and seems to prefer having her head chewed on by Lily. So the new kitty, named Winter, has been with us for a little over a week--we thought we'd try it out, having 2 cats. He was a stray that the Mister picked up off the street where it appeared it'd been dropped off--right next to a very busy Frontage Road.
Now that enough time has gone by to gauge what we'd be dealing with if we kept him....we have to turn him into the animal shelter. The hair is just too much for the Mister's allergies. :o(
But I have a feeling he won't spend much time there before someone adopts him. He's just too pretty.
I had another spot appear in my eye last week. I also had a follow-up with the retina specialist on Friday. He saw another spot of blood in the vitreous fluid of my right eye. He has no idea what's causing it....so I'm seeing a neurologist tomorrow. We'll see what happens. Maybe I'm growing super powers? One can only hope.
Last weekend was my work Christmas party. 4 couples. Something the Mister & I rarely get to do--go out with a group and have a good time. The food was good, I even had some red wine I liked, and I had SO MUCH FUN! I LOVE the people I work with. Seriously. What a novel experience...working with adults who act rational and reasonable and let me do my job without interference.
We're not going to the Parents' place for Christmas this year. I'm stressed about things pretty bad and I don't want the added stress of being around my siblings. Thankfully, the Mom is understanding about it.
I made applesauce that turned out SO yummy! I made it the way my Grandpa used to make it. And it's the best damn applesauce I've ever had.
Now, I'm hoping to make some apple jelly with the trimmings. A bit intimidated, but willing to try.
And before I let myself feel too confident in the kitchen....I tried to make an apple crisp over the weekend. It didn't turn out awesome. Even I can screw up.
Flour is the difference between apple crisp and apple glop. BIG DIFFERENCE.
A big, white, long-haired kitty is staying with us. He doesn't like the dogs, but he wants to be friends with Smudge. Smudge, however, doesn't like him and seems to prefer having her head chewed on by Lily. So the new kitty, named Winter, has been with us for a little over a week--we thought we'd try it out, having 2 cats. He was a stray that the Mister picked up off the street where it appeared it'd been dropped off--right next to a very busy Frontage Road.
Now that enough time has gone by to gauge what we'd be dealing with if we kept him....we have to turn him into the animal shelter. The hair is just too much for the Mister's allergies. :o(
But I have a feeling he won't spend much time there before someone adopts him. He's just too pretty.
I had another spot appear in my eye last week. I also had a follow-up with the retina specialist on Friday. He saw another spot of blood in the vitreous fluid of my right eye. He has no idea what's causing it....so I'm seeing a neurologist tomorrow. We'll see what happens. Maybe I'm growing super powers? One can only hope.
Last weekend was my work Christmas party. 4 couples. Something the Mister & I rarely get to do--go out with a group and have a good time. The food was good, I even had some red wine I liked, and I had SO MUCH FUN! I LOVE the people I work with. Seriously. What a novel experience...working with adults who act rational and reasonable and let me do my job without interference.
We're not going to the Parents' place for Christmas this year. I'm stressed about things pretty bad and I don't want the added stress of being around my siblings. Thankfully, the Mom is understanding about it.
I made applesauce that turned out SO yummy! I made it the way my Grandpa used to make it. And it's the best damn applesauce I've ever had.
Now, I'm hoping to make some apple jelly with the trimmings. A bit intimidated, but willing to try.
And before I let myself feel too confident in the kitchen....I tried to make an apple crisp over the weekend. It didn't turn out awesome. Even I can screw up.
Flour is the difference between apple crisp and apple glop. BIG DIFFERENCE.
Friday, November 23, 2012
The Holidays
If there's any period of time when I feel more out of sync with the rest of the world, it's during the holidays. My introversion definitely becomes more difficult to manage for these precious few days at the end of the year.
Between Thanksgiving and Christmas, I feel myself retreat more than usual. It's supposed to be a time of happy families, togetherness, and warm memories.
For me, however, Thanksgiving isn't really a holiday. The Mister always works the day after, so we never get to go anywhere. Yes, I get the time off, but it's just another day to me most years. I don't like turkey due to the fact that I got sick from it one year when I was a kid.
Last Thanksgiving was difficult emotionally, so now I don't like the day even more.
Christmas is the hardest, though. Even thinking about it puts me in a state of exhaustion. Because Christmas has always meant going home, being surrounded by noisy, loud family.
I'm not denying that sometimes I enjoy myself, but for most of the time I'm home, I want to escape. I literally have to force myself to stay--for the Mom. She loves, adores and cherishes Christmas. It's her favorite season. She loves having all of her kids home (even though the other two live in the same town and stop by to see her frequently) together. Since she's who she is, there's almost always other family & friends who spend Christmas with the family--Mom firmly believes in the concept of "the more, the merrier."
This year my sister has a new baby. A colicky baby. And I'm sure I'll be expected to hold the baby and be looked at by the rest of the family as though, this time, seeing THIS baby, more than any other baby I've ever seen, I will suddenly realize how empty my life is without one of my own. Dad will most assuredly do this, since he hasn't seemed to hear what the Mister & I have said over the years.
The sister, of course, will try talking at me. At me because I try to escape from her company as quickly and efficiently as possible. It's an involuntary reaction. It's a severe feeling of immediacy. A reflex like nothing I've experienced before or in any other situation. Mostly due to the fact that I fear what I will say to her, and thereby ruin the happy cheer of everyone else.
Then there's the brother--the one who I cringe to be in the same room with because I'm always on guard that he'll lash out at me with his bitter anger/distrust/disgust/unhappiness.
Between those two, I'm automatically like a turtle/armadillo/hedgehog--I just want to withdraw in to my own quiet world and feel the serenity of solitude.
Since my Mom has such a big heart, and is loved by so many, there's family & friends who come to visit while I'm home. And no matter how hard it is, I force myself to try to be friendly. I force myself not to leave the room, or the house, or the country. Because it hurts Mom's feelings when I do. And I hate to do that. I hate being the person in the family she thinks will "love" everyone she knows, and I'm the least likely one to do so.
While everyone else is forming happy memories of togetherness, I've come to remember past Christmas times as tense, uncomfortable periods. The physical reaction I'm currently feeling, just remembering, is fight-or-flight. I just want to escape, because I don't want to fight. I don't want to ruin the memories for other people, especially my Mom. This is the time in my life, more than any other, that I truly wish I was someone else--someone who handled being surrounded by people better, with ease.
I wonder if I should ask Santa for a lobotomy for Christmas...
Between Thanksgiving and Christmas, I feel myself retreat more than usual. It's supposed to be a time of happy families, togetherness, and warm memories.
For me, however, Thanksgiving isn't really a holiday. The Mister always works the day after, so we never get to go anywhere. Yes, I get the time off, but it's just another day to me most years. I don't like turkey due to the fact that I got sick from it one year when I was a kid.
Last Thanksgiving was difficult emotionally, so now I don't like the day even more.
Christmas is the hardest, though. Even thinking about it puts me in a state of exhaustion. Because Christmas has always meant going home, being surrounded by noisy, loud family.
I'm not denying that sometimes I enjoy myself, but for most of the time I'm home, I want to escape. I literally have to force myself to stay--for the Mom. She loves, adores and cherishes Christmas. It's her favorite season. She loves having all of her kids home (even though the other two live in the same town and stop by to see her frequently) together. Since she's who she is, there's almost always other family & friends who spend Christmas with the family--Mom firmly believes in the concept of "the more, the merrier."
This year my sister has a new baby. A colicky baby. And I'm sure I'll be expected to hold the baby and be looked at by the rest of the family as though, this time, seeing THIS baby, more than any other baby I've ever seen, I will suddenly realize how empty my life is without one of my own. Dad will most assuredly do this, since he hasn't seemed to hear what the Mister & I have said over the years.
The sister, of course, will try talking at me. At me because I try to escape from her company as quickly and efficiently as possible. It's an involuntary reaction. It's a severe feeling of immediacy. A reflex like nothing I've experienced before or in any other situation. Mostly due to the fact that I fear what I will say to her, and thereby ruin the happy cheer of everyone else.
Then there's the brother--the one who I cringe to be in the same room with because I'm always on guard that he'll lash out at me with his bitter anger/distrust/disgust/unhappiness.
Between those two, I'm automatically like a turtle/armadillo/hedgehog--I just want to withdraw in to my own quiet world and feel the serenity of solitude.
Since my Mom has such a big heart, and is loved by so many, there's family & friends who come to visit while I'm home. And no matter how hard it is, I force myself to try to be friendly. I force myself not to leave the room, or the house, or the country. Because it hurts Mom's feelings when I do. And I hate to do that. I hate being the person in the family she thinks will "love" everyone she knows, and I'm the least likely one to do so.
While everyone else is forming happy memories of togetherness, I've come to remember past Christmas times as tense, uncomfortable periods. The physical reaction I'm currently feeling, just remembering, is fight-or-flight. I just want to escape, because I don't want to fight. I don't want to ruin the memories for other people, especially my Mom. This is the time in my life, more than any other, that I truly wish I was someone else--someone who handled being surrounded by people better, with ease.
I wonder if I should ask Santa for a lobotomy for Christmas...
Wednesday, November 07, 2012
Happy sadness
In a perfect world, I would be jubilant today. Everything I voted for or against would've been on the winning side.
I guess I could say I'm 95% happy at this point--the one thing I'm unhappy about at this point was the initiative that put extremely strict guidelines on medical marijuana in the state. This is frustrating because so many other states are heading in the other direction, namely Washington and Colorado.
The tighter regulations here will mean, unbelievably, that money won't change hands for the product--no money means no taxes. I firmly believe that marijuana, which has been shown to be used by a majority of Americans at least once in their life, should be legal and should be taxed, just like alcohol and cigarettes.
In Washington, an estimate of the possible tax revenues from marijuana was over $600,000,000. In Colorado, where it won't be taxed as severely, the estimate was $60 million. I imagine the numbers are so different due to state population size, number of users, and how much the product will be taxed.
Now, imagine if the rest of the country was allowed to tax legal marijuana. I hope we're heading in that direction, I really do, because I think it's a viable option for our budget deficit.
In terms of other elected officials--my guys won. The gubernatorial candidates ran vastly different campaigns. One guy was supported by law enforcement officers and firefighters throughout the state. People of authority, in my state, supported him. So it wasn't hard to vote for him instead of his opponent--a former lobbyist that had out-of-state politicians in his party coming here to stump for him.
No idea why, but in another race it came down to facial hair. I hate facial hair on most guys, mustaches in particular. I voted for the guy with no facial hair and a long family history of farming in Montana.
There's other positions that went to people I didn't vote for, but overall I'm happy with how things turned out, especially nationwide.
Women won big this election--a record number of women in office in congress. With crap abortion talk among republicans in the Midwest, it was a relief to see that men who believe rape is "God's plan" and women's bodies can "shut that whole thing down" after rape, were defeated by more (hopefully) rational people.
It was also great to see that same-sex marriage was made legal in some states, and the first openly lesbian candidate was elected, too.
And, most importantly, there were a lot of voters. Over 100 million. Considering that roughly 1/3 of the population of the entire country voted....that's pretty awesome.
Now I can only hope (silly, I know) that when Washington gets back to work, they actually do work--instead of trying to focus on blocking what the other party doesn't want (remember Mitch McConnell saying that the republicans needed to do everything they could to keep Obama from winning a second term?). Impeding progress, to me, is equivalent to moving backwards.
I guess I could say I'm 95% happy at this point--the one thing I'm unhappy about at this point was the initiative that put extremely strict guidelines on medical marijuana in the state. This is frustrating because so many other states are heading in the other direction, namely Washington and Colorado.
The tighter regulations here will mean, unbelievably, that money won't change hands for the product--no money means no taxes. I firmly believe that marijuana, which has been shown to be used by a majority of Americans at least once in their life, should be legal and should be taxed, just like alcohol and cigarettes.
In Washington, an estimate of the possible tax revenues from marijuana was over $600,000,000. In Colorado, where it won't be taxed as severely, the estimate was $60 million. I imagine the numbers are so different due to state population size, number of users, and how much the product will be taxed.
Now, imagine if the rest of the country was allowed to tax legal marijuana. I hope we're heading in that direction, I really do, because I think it's a viable option for our budget deficit.
In terms of other elected officials--my guys won. The gubernatorial candidates ran vastly different campaigns. One guy was supported by law enforcement officers and firefighters throughout the state. People of authority, in my state, supported him. So it wasn't hard to vote for him instead of his opponent--a former lobbyist that had out-of-state politicians in his party coming here to stump for him.
No idea why, but in another race it came down to facial hair. I hate facial hair on most guys, mustaches in particular. I voted for the guy with no facial hair and a long family history of farming in Montana.
There's other positions that went to people I didn't vote for, but overall I'm happy with how things turned out, especially nationwide.
Women won big this election--a record number of women in office in congress. With crap abortion talk among republicans in the Midwest, it was a relief to see that men who believe rape is "God's plan" and women's bodies can "shut that whole thing down" after rape, were defeated by more (hopefully) rational people.
It was also great to see that same-sex marriage was made legal in some states, and the first openly lesbian candidate was elected, too.
And, most importantly, there were a lot of voters. Over 100 million. Considering that roughly 1/3 of the population of the entire country voted....that's pretty awesome.
Now I can only hope (silly, I know) that when Washington gets back to work, they actually do work--instead of trying to focus on blocking what the other party doesn't want (remember Mitch McConnell saying that the republicans needed to do everything they could to keep Obama from winning a second term?). Impeding progress, to me, is equivalent to moving backwards.
Friday, October 26, 2012
Good/Bad News
When I signed up with a local staffing company, I was initially excited--new, different opportunities were bound to be part of my future.
I was interviewed a couple of times for temp-to-hire positions, but those didn't pan out.
Then I was set up for some normal temp gigs. My first was at a law office. My single day there, I was answering phones. Nothing more, nothing less. It wasn't horrible.
For my second temp position, I worked at an insurance company. This was the situation where my eye went wonky and I was forced to miss some work, but they let me come back. It was a fun place to work--very laid back, friendly people there. I was sorry to finish my 5-day assignment with them.
Temp spot #3 was on campus, at the university, working in the office where I'd interviewed for one of the temp-to-hire jobs. This job lasted almost 2 full weeks, if I remember correctly. I was eager to be back on campus--I've missed it since I graduated.
It was a few weeks between then and my latest assignment--strangely, back at the law office where I'd worked my first day.
This week I worked there Wednesday thru today. Since I've been there longer than just one day, I've gotten a chance to get more of a feel for the place. And it was comfortable enough that when they mentioned that they were looking for someone to work permanently in the position I was temporarily filling, I told them I was interested. They seemed to be interested as well (they asked the temp agency for me again to work these few days) and told me to bring in a copy of my resume.
So I did, on Wednesday--I came home at lunch, grabbed my nice resume paper and printed out a copy for every person in the office (all 4 of them lol).
Today, they called me into an office and told me they were, essentially, keeping me. Adopting me?
I didn't have any kind of formal interview, probably because they'd all had a chance to work with me while I was there.
So....YAY! That was my initial response. It's been relatively easy working with them. I only say "relatively" because I haven't been responsible for much yet. But that'll change on Monday.
I'm extremely excited about the job. I mean, yes, I've been looking and applying, but I wasn't sure where I'd end up, or even if I'd get a job. Most of my tries have been for local government/university jobs, just because of the benefits--good health insurance, retirement options, etc., which are pretty important considering the fact that the Mister's job doesn't offer any bennies. And, considering my previous experience working for local government, I was afraid I wouldn't necessarily feel secure in a new job in that field.
With this position, though, there's some bad news--I have no benefits. None. No health insurance, no retirement anything, no sick pay. Very few days off.
That's the bad news. Pretty much all of it, in fact.
The good news:
I was interviewed a couple of times for temp-to-hire positions, but those didn't pan out.
Then I was set up for some normal temp gigs. My first was at a law office. My single day there, I was answering phones. Nothing more, nothing less. It wasn't horrible.
For my second temp position, I worked at an insurance company. This was the situation where my eye went wonky and I was forced to miss some work, but they let me come back. It was a fun place to work--very laid back, friendly people there. I was sorry to finish my 5-day assignment with them.
Temp spot #3 was on campus, at the university, working in the office where I'd interviewed for one of the temp-to-hire jobs. This job lasted almost 2 full weeks, if I remember correctly. I was eager to be back on campus--I've missed it since I graduated.
It was a few weeks between then and my latest assignment--strangely, back at the law office where I'd worked my first day.
This week I worked there Wednesday thru today. Since I've been there longer than just one day, I've gotten a chance to get more of a feel for the place. And it was comfortable enough that when they mentioned that they were looking for someone to work permanently in the position I was temporarily filling, I told them I was interested. They seemed to be interested as well (they asked the temp agency for me again to work these few days) and told me to bring in a copy of my resume.
So I did, on Wednesday--I came home at lunch, grabbed my nice resume paper and printed out a copy for every person in the office (all 4 of them lol).
Today, they called me into an office and told me they were, essentially, keeping me. Adopting me?
I didn't have any kind of formal interview, probably because they'd all had a chance to work with me while I was there.
So....YAY! That was my initial response. It's been relatively easy working with them. I only say "relatively" because I haven't been responsible for much yet. But that'll change on Monday.
I'm extremely excited about the job. I mean, yes, I've been looking and applying, but I wasn't sure where I'd end up, or even if I'd get a job. Most of my tries have been for local government/university jobs, just because of the benefits--good health insurance, retirement options, etc., which are pretty important considering the fact that the Mister's job doesn't offer any bennies. And, considering my previous experience working for local government, I was afraid I wouldn't necessarily feel secure in a new job in that field.
With this position, though, there's some bad news--I have no benefits. None. No health insurance, no retirement anything, no sick pay. Very few days off.
That's the bad news. Pretty much all of it, in fact.
The good news:
- It's a job
- The pay isn't minimum wage
- It's close to home--a 3 minute drive. I can ride my bike in the summer
- It's quiet. Not library quiet, but almost.
- There's not too many people to deal with. The practice consists of a married couple and their friend, and a paralegal. 4 people. While I know not a whole lot can be determined within 3 days, I feel comfortable there--they all seem like very rational, decent people.
- They all seem to be mature adults. No catty women.
- They each have their own office--nobody is watching me, breathing over my shoulder, looking for me to screw up.
- THERE'S NO GOSSIP. None. It's a law office, client confidentiality is very important. I can't talk to anyone about anything I see or hear. Such a weight off my shoulders.
- The practice is pretty new. Yes, the attorneys have multiple years, decades even, under their belts, but they just formed a new practice together. So...I get to kind of have input on things around the office as needed. In fact, they already asked me if I knew of any art that might look good behind my desk.
- I get my own space. It's a new office, a new space, and the furniture is new. I can do what makes me most comfortable and that's the way it'll be.
- There are going to be times in which I am left all alone in the office for periods of time. Seriously. My mind is blown.
- I get a key. Already. No joke.
- They've had a chance to work with me and seem to like me. They're "keeping"/"adopting" me. So they must already be happy enough with how I work.
I know I'll have to make some decisions if I get offered another job that has bennies.
I know I'm likely to become very attached to this job if I get along with everyone--just because my previous job was so bad.
I know I won't be talking about the job at Christmas when I'm around my family. My sister has worked as a paralegal. I know if she finds out about where I'm at, she will never, ever, EVER stop talking to me about it. One time she found out that we used the same razor to shave our legs. She wouldn't shut up about it for a good 10 minutes. Seriously. A razor.
Tuesday, October 23, 2012
Chemical Romance
Growing up, I had no idea what I wanted to be. But I did know what I didn't want to do--anything remotely related to the sciences. I'm not entirely sure why I thought that way. In middle school, I had an Earth Science class with a funny teacher. That was 7th grade....the following year, I was his TA for a class period. Fine, great, good--a way to get credits without actually taking another class.
In high school, science credits were harder to come by--if I took Chemistry, I'd be dealing with a douchebag. No one, and I mean no one, wanted to be in the Chemistry teacher's class. Most students took his class only because they needed the credits.
The option I took was an Earth Science class--again--but this time it was a class in which almost everyone thought the credits were easy to get. I was never happier than the day I finished that class and knew that I wouldn't have any more science-related credits to try for. I could concentrate on my favorite classes: art, history and band.
That was 13 years ago.
Since then, I've attended college, discovered my passion (in a science field), and become something of a devoted science fan. In my free time, if I'm not reading, I like to watch the Science Channel, National Geographic Channel, Discovery Channel, etc. I'm glad to peruse the latest copy of National Geographic, or learn from something David Quammen wrote, if I'm not inhaling other novels.
Now I love science. I'm a fan of I Fucking Love Science on Facebook. There's always at least one new thing to discover every day.
Not quite sure how it happened, but contrary to my 18-year-old self's beliefs, I've found that science is just fucking awesome.
I'm fascinated by things as small as the synapses in the human brain, and as infinitely enormous as the universe.
Chemistry is still a foreign language to me, but I can't help but be thankful for it; I'd probably be in a straight jacket right now if not for the wonderful power of chemistry. After all, chemistry creates anti-anxiety meds. And my life has been, for lack of a better phrase, fucked up for the past few months. Badly enough that I've been thankful for medications.
In the day-to-day life we all live, I think we forget how unbelievable our existence is--things like bills, errands, jobs, wellness, and relationships consume our daily lives.
Our sun is a star; it's not special in any way, it's just another star among a universe full of stars.
If we counted all of the sand on the planet, every single speck of sand on Earth--it's a lot, isn't it?--it still couldn't account for all of the stars in the sky. Seriously.
It's Earth.
It's Earth from the edge of our solar system. That minuscule pixel is us, from almost 4 billion miles away. Our planet is a Pale Blue Dot. A speck of dust in an unimaginably vast emptiness.
How's that for perspective?
In high school, science credits were harder to come by--if I took Chemistry, I'd be dealing with a douchebag. No one, and I mean no one, wanted to be in the Chemistry teacher's class. Most students took his class only because they needed the credits.
The option I took was an Earth Science class--again--but this time it was a class in which almost everyone thought the credits were easy to get. I was never happier than the day I finished that class and knew that I wouldn't have any more science-related credits to try for. I could concentrate on my favorite classes: art, history and band.
That was 13 years ago.
Since then, I've attended college, discovered my passion (in a science field), and become something of a devoted science fan. In my free time, if I'm not reading, I like to watch the Science Channel, National Geographic Channel, Discovery Channel, etc. I'm glad to peruse the latest copy of National Geographic, or learn from something David Quammen wrote, if I'm not inhaling other novels.
Now I love science. I'm a fan of I Fucking Love Science on Facebook. There's always at least one new thing to discover every day.
Not quite sure how it happened, but contrary to my 18-year-old self's beliefs, I've found that science is just fucking awesome.
I'm fascinated by things as small as the synapses in the human brain, and as infinitely enormous as the universe.
Chemistry is still a foreign language to me, but I can't help but be thankful for it; I'd probably be in a straight jacket right now if not for the wonderful power of chemistry. After all, chemistry creates anti-anxiety meds. And my life has been, for lack of a better phrase, fucked up for the past few months. Badly enough that I've been thankful for medications.
In the day-to-day life we all live, I think we forget how unbelievable our existence is--things like bills, errands, jobs, wellness, and relationships consume our daily lives.
Our sun is a star; it's not special in any way, it's just another star among a universe full of stars.
If we counted all of the sand on the planet, every single speck of sand on Earth--it's a lot, isn't it?--it still couldn't account for all of the stars in the sky. Seriously.
The above image is a pretty effective tool at blowing minds. I know it's pretty famous. It was taken in 1990, which is the middle of my anti-science focus, so I'm sure it had no impact on me.
It kind of looks like a science experiment dealing with rays of light. There's reddish, greenish, and orange-tinged rays. Maybe lasers? Maybe it's a fuzzy picture of some kind of DNA with a single anomaly--the dot--that will finally unlock some long-time mystery. Or it could be something else entirely, it could be an infrared image of Bigfoot walking on black top. But it's something far simpler than that.
It's Earth.
It's Earth from the edge of our solar system. That minuscule pixel is us, from almost 4 billion miles away. Our planet is a Pale Blue Dot. A speck of dust in an unimaginably vast emptiness.
How's that for perspective?
Sunday, October 14, 2012
Sweet Issue
I have a problem. I wouldn't go so far as to call it an addiction. It's probably better described as a compulsion. It's not fearsome or life-threatening. But it's a bit strange.
I like to bake.
No, that's not the problem, although it is directly related to the problem.
I like to bake sweet treats. Cookies, cakes, breads, and the occasional pie. If it's got sugar in it, and it's some kind of indulgence, I'd probably like to make it.
The only problem with my baking habit is, well....I like to share my baked goods. With anyone who wants them. Yes, that includes mailing baked goods. I don't know why I feel this need, I'm sure people think I'm a crazy wacko, but that's nothing new.
During Christmas season, instead of sending cards, I send peanut butter balls or pass along some shortbread.
During the fall, when squash varieties are in season, I might mail out some blueberry zucchini bread.
When I get a bee in my bonnet and decide to make snickerdoodles for no reason other than I want to try a new cookie recipe....I package up a dozen or two and send them to old friends and new friends. The new friends, I imagine, consider me a nut job and worry for their safety...and never stick around long enough to become old friends.
I honestly don't know why I like to do it. I can't count the number of times the Mister has been sent to work with a few dozen cookies, or some kind of sweet treat.
I'm compelled to share my sugary habit with people near and far.
It's not necessarily that I want people to like me for my baked goods, but possibly more because I think a treat is a simple way to brighten someone's day.
And I'm not even a people person!
Ugh.
So.weird.
I like to bake.
No, that's not the problem, although it is directly related to the problem.
I like to bake sweet treats. Cookies, cakes, breads, and the occasional pie. If it's got sugar in it, and it's some kind of indulgence, I'd probably like to make it.
The only problem with my baking habit is, well....I like to share my baked goods. With anyone who wants them. Yes, that includes mailing baked goods. I don't know why I feel this need, I'm sure people think I'm a crazy wacko, but that's nothing new.
During Christmas season, instead of sending cards, I send peanut butter balls or pass along some shortbread.
During the fall, when squash varieties are in season, I might mail out some blueberry zucchini bread.
When I get a bee in my bonnet and decide to make snickerdoodles for no reason other than I want to try a new cookie recipe....I package up a dozen or two and send them to old friends and new friends. The new friends, I imagine, consider me a nut job and worry for their safety...and never stick around long enough to become old friends.
I honestly don't know why I like to do it. I can't count the number of times the Mister has been sent to work with a few dozen cookies, or some kind of sweet treat.
I'm compelled to share my sugary habit with people near and far.
It's not necessarily that I want people to like me for my baked goods, but possibly more because I think a treat is a simple way to brighten someone's day.
And I'm not even a people person!
Ugh.
So.weird.
Thursday, October 11, 2012
Random Laugh
Yes, it's a little longer than most jokes....but it's work a chuckle.
Thursday, October 04, 2012
Another One Bites The Dust
Things are difficult in my life right now. There's a lot of not-good things happening, but I'm somehow managing not to crawl into a hole and attempt to force my body into hibernation mode until things get better. Hibernation wouldn't be possible, in any case, since my body is larger than a squirrel or mouse and therefore can't go into shutdown for months at a time.
Never thought I'd be jealous of a squirrel, but ANYWAY....
On top of everything else that's going on, that I mentioned in a previous post, the car (Tallulah), a MINI Cooper Countryman, is starting to ding at me. A check engine light is coming on.
Now, for most people, this wouldn't be a big deal--just pop over to a local shop and get things fixed. Unfortunately, (or fortunately) my car is a MINI. And it's under warranty. Which means if I want to get it fixed, I have to take it to a MINI dealer. I can have it towed there on MINI's dime, but I'd have to get it back. And it's the only car we own, which means getting the Mister to & from work could become an issue. Ugh.
Following this possibly difficult and expensive problem is teeth. Yesterday the Mister's teeth spit out one of his fillings. Have I mentioned we don't have insurance? Well, we don't. So getting that fixed is yet another necessary expense. And our dentist doesn't do payment plans. blah
In normal situations when someone is going through all this kind of shit, they can rely on their friends to be there as a support. As an introvert, I have few close friends that I feel I can rely on. And the one I was closest to, A, told me this week that she has too much going on in her life right now to even listen to me. Yes, she's got a lot going on, and I've tried to be a support for her as she faces the difficulties that have started in her life--even though I've got a holyhell shit-ton going on in my life.
So she's taking a "break" from me and my drama. She says she's not ditching me, but honestly, how can she call herself a friend if I can't lean on her a little while my life slowly implodes? I really valued her friendship, and I tried really hard to be a good friend for her. But apparently it's just not what she wants/needs. I guess I should've tried to have my life crumble at a more convenient time for her.
Now, at this point in my life, possibly my lowest low, when a lot of people in my position would probably be crying daily and even possibly considering suicide, and I'm trying to stay positive, I lose one of my very few supports. And this is something that hurts more than any of the other crap going on. Every other difficult thing going on was easier to handle because I had someone in my corner. Now that's no longer the case.
Yet again, I feel like giving up. I feel like it's probably best for my emotional wellbeing if I don't try to invest my energy and feelings into any more friendships.
And for the first time, with all this shit happening, I actually feel depression weighing on me.
Never thought I'd be jealous of a squirrel, but ANYWAY....
On top of everything else that's going on, that I mentioned in a previous post, the car (Tallulah), a MINI Cooper Countryman, is starting to ding at me. A check engine light is coming on.
Now, for most people, this wouldn't be a big deal--just pop over to a local shop and get things fixed. Unfortunately, (or fortunately) my car is a MINI. And it's under warranty. Which means if I want to get it fixed, I have to take it to a MINI dealer. I can have it towed there on MINI's dime, but I'd have to get it back. And it's the only car we own, which means getting the Mister to & from work could become an issue. Ugh.
Following this possibly difficult and expensive problem is teeth. Yesterday the Mister's teeth spit out one of his fillings. Have I mentioned we don't have insurance? Well, we don't. So getting that fixed is yet another necessary expense. And our dentist doesn't do payment plans. blah
In normal situations when someone is going through all this kind of shit, they can rely on their friends to be there as a support. As an introvert, I have few close friends that I feel I can rely on. And the one I was closest to, A, told me this week that she has too much going on in her life right now to even listen to me. Yes, she's got a lot going on, and I've tried to be a support for her as she faces the difficulties that have started in her life--even though I've got a holyhell shit-ton going on in my life.
So she's taking a "break" from me and my drama. She says she's not ditching me, but honestly, how can she call herself a friend if I can't lean on her a little while my life slowly implodes? I really valued her friendship, and I tried really hard to be a good friend for her. But apparently it's just not what she wants/needs. I guess I should've tried to have my life crumble at a more convenient time for her.
Now, at this point in my life, possibly my lowest low, when a lot of people in my position would probably be crying daily and even possibly considering suicide, and I'm trying to stay positive, I lose one of my very few supports. And this is something that hurts more than any of the other crap going on. Every other difficult thing going on was easier to handle because I had someone in my corner. Now that's no longer the case.
Yet again, I feel like giving up. I feel like it's probably best for my emotional wellbeing if I don't try to invest my energy and feelings into any more friendships.
And for the first time, with all this shit happening, I actually feel depression weighing on me.
Wednesday, September 26, 2012
Where there's smoke...
After the depressing week we had last week, I was hoping for a calmer, less drama- and stress-filled weekend. It kind of didn't work that way. At all.
I ended up sleeping in pretty late on Saturday morning. Which meant I managed to stay up pretty late on Saturday night. Around midnight, I was feeling tired enough to go to bed, so I let the dogs out one last time. While doing so, I noticed some small flames flickering in the window of a house under construction a block away. I did a quick double-take, to make sure I wasn't imagining things, then told the Mister, "I think that house is on fire!" He quickly came to the door and saw the same thing I did, so I called 911. Their first question when answering is "What is the address of your emergency?" So naturally I said, "I have no idea! It's a house on Yellowstone, north of Durston." I explained what we were seeing and the dispatcher told me they'd notified the fire department.
The 911 Communications center is located about 3/4 of a mile from our house, so it really didn't take long for them to get to the house. Unfortunately, since the house was only framed up, with nothing but wood structure going on, the fire spread very quickly. The Mister, being the Mister, grabbed his camera and ran out to get pictures. I, on the other hand, grabbed my Flip and started to record what was happening from the safety of our back porch.
I edited the video to show the sparks being carried by the wind to the empty, weed-covered block just north of our house.
It was pretty unreal, what happened. Yes, there have been some suspected-arson fires in the area in the past month or so, but I never imagined I'd be a witness to one.
Here are some of the pictures that the Mister took of the house on fire:
The occupied house right next to the house on fire was, thankfully, spared from catching on fire thanks to the firefighters. A window was blown out and the newly-finished fence caught on fire, but other than that, I believe everyone in the house got out safely and the house itself wasn't damaged.
I've never in my life called 911 before. It's not something I ever thought I'd have to do--I'd prefer to avoid all possible emergencies that could necessitate calling for help. I think I was one of the first people who called in about the fire, so we got questioned a little about what we saw--if we saw anyone near the house when the fire started--but neither of us were any help in that regard.
I contacted a local news station to see if they were interested in the photos at all, and they were. They also wanted to interview us about the recent fires--this property fire was only one of 4 that happened over the weekend. So the Mister got to be on tv.
The news story on local newscast
That was certainly exciting all by itself. But wait! There's more!! (oh, how I wish there wasn't)
Naturally, a lot of people in the neighborhood were woken by the chaos of the fire--the fire truck honked a few times as it came this way, the house itself made clanging and crashing noises as it burned--and so, since we live in the age of handy technology, other folks were taking pictures and videos of the fire as it happened.
The local fire department put some of the photos the Mister took on their website, along with someone else's. (I'm not naming the someone else for obvious reasons)
Apparently the someone else, for unknown reasons, thought that the Mister had somehow managed to steal his photos and was taking credit for them. So it was, this morning, that the Mister told me this guy was sending him harassing messages on Facebook, accusing the Mister of somehow taking his photos without his permission so he could take credit for them.
The Mister, being....well...the Mister, didn't really say "Hey, calm down, I don't know what you're talking about" but instead "Those are pictures I took with my camera, dumbass*".
(*all quoted material is paraphrased--not actual conversation)
And so it began.
The guy actually called our house to ask for the Mister, who was at work, and didn't want to leave a message. I was still in the dark about what was transpiring at this point. So I called the Mister to tell him he'd just gotten a call from someone asking for him at home (very peculiar) and he told me this guy on FB was harassing him. And had now sent him a message saying, "Your wife sounds cute, I think I'll stop by and say Hi while you're out of town."
This was later followed with, "I'm going to go over to your house so your wife can give me a blowjob" as well as "Your wife is fat, and you're a loser" which eventually ended with "It was nice getting to know you, and your unattractive wife". The ending was accomplished by the Mister blocking the guy on Facebook.
He also called the Mister's employer to complain about the Mister harassing him.
Needless to say, I got to call the cops again, thankfully on the non-emergency line. I spoke with an officer about what was going on and she reassured me that what the guy was doing was NOT ok, she'd warn him and if he didn't heed her warning, we could press charges. I just wanted him to leave us alone.
The scariest part of it--he actually complimented one of the pictures we had posted--after he'd harassed us!
I really, really hope crazy things can stop happening now. I think my allowance of crazy things was filled a couple months ago.
I ended up sleeping in pretty late on Saturday morning. Which meant I managed to stay up pretty late on Saturday night. Around midnight, I was feeling tired enough to go to bed, so I let the dogs out one last time. While doing so, I noticed some small flames flickering in the window of a house under construction a block away. I did a quick double-take, to make sure I wasn't imagining things, then told the Mister, "I think that house is on fire!" He quickly came to the door and saw the same thing I did, so I called 911. Their first question when answering is "What is the address of your emergency?" So naturally I said, "I have no idea! It's a house on Yellowstone, north of Durston." I explained what we were seeing and the dispatcher told me they'd notified the fire department.
The 911 Communications center is located about 3/4 of a mile from our house, so it really didn't take long for them to get to the house. Unfortunately, since the house was only framed up, with nothing but wood structure going on, the fire spread very quickly. The Mister, being the Mister, grabbed his camera and ran out to get pictures. I, on the other hand, grabbed my Flip and started to record what was happening from the safety of our back porch.
I edited the video to show the sparks being carried by the wind to the empty, weed-covered block just north of our house.
It was pretty unreal, what happened. Yes, there have been some suspected-arson fires in the area in the past month or so, but I never imagined I'd be a witness to one.
Here are some of the pictures that the Mister took of the house on fire:
The occupied house right next to the house on fire was, thankfully, spared from catching on fire thanks to the firefighters. A window was blown out and the newly-finished fence caught on fire, but other than that, I believe everyone in the house got out safely and the house itself wasn't damaged.
I've never in my life called 911 before. It's not something I ever thought I'd have to do--I'd prefer to avoid all possible emergencies that could necessitate calling for help. I think I was one of the first people who called in about the fire, so we got questioned a little about what we saw--if we saw anyone near the house when the fire started--but neither of us were any help in that regard.
I contacted a local news station to see if they were interested in the photos at all, and they were. They also wanted to interview us about the recent fires--this property fire was only one of 4 that happened over the weekend. So the Mister got to be on tv.
The news story on local newscast
That was certainly exciting all by itself. But wait! There's more!! (oh, how I wish there wasn't)
Naturally, a lot of people in the neighborhood were woken by the chaos of the fire--the fire truck honked a few times as it came this way, the house itself made clanging and crashing noises as it burned--and so, since we live in the age of handy technology, other folks were taking pictures and videos of the fire as it happened.
The local fire department put some of the photos the Mister took on their website, along with someone else's. (I'm not naming the someone else for obvious reasons)
Apparently the someone else, for unknown reasons, thought that the Mister had somehow managed to steal his photos and was taking credit for them. So it was, this morning, that the Mister told me this guy was sending him harassing messages on Facebook, accusing the Mister of somehow taking his photos without his permission so he could take credit for them.
The Mister, being....well...the Mister, didn't really say "Hey, calm down, I don't know what you're talking about" but instead "Those are pictures I took with my camera, dumbass*".
(*all quoted material is paraphrased--not actual conversation)
And so it began.
The guy actually called our house to ask for the Mister, who was at work, and didn't want to leave a message. I was still in the dark about what was transpiring at this point. So I called the Mister to tell him he'd just gotten a call from someone asking for him at home (very peculiar) and he told me this guy on FB was harassing him. And had now sent him a message saying, "Your wife sounds cute, I think I'll stop by and say Hi while you're out of town."
This was later followed with, "I'm going to go over to your house so your wife can give me a blowjob" as well as "Your wife is fat, and you're a loser" which eventually ended with "It was nice getting to know you, and your unattractive wife". The ending was accomplished by the Mister blocking the guy on Facebook.
He also called the Mister's employer to complain about the Mister harassing him.
Needless to say, I got to call the cops again, thankfully on the non-emergency line. I spoke with an officer about what was going on and she reassured me that what the guy was doing was NOT ok, she'd warn him and if he didn't heed her warning, we could press charges. I just wanted him to leave us alone.
The scariest part of it--he actually complimented one of the pictures we had posted--after he'd harassed us!
I really, really hope crazy things can stop happening now. I think my allowance of crazy things was filled a couple months ago.
Thursday, September 20, 2012
Misery
I'm not usually someone who will write down all of the bad things, the negative things, the hard things that are going on. I don't like to be depressed, I feel like I'm generally a rather optimistic person, even if things tend to drag me down every now and then.
I'm sure someday I'll look back at this time in my life and think that it only made me smarter/stronger/a better person. But right now, it fucking sucks.
Right now, I want to just get it all out and over and done with, so I can hopefully move on.
I messed up this year. Badly messed up.
The Mister was fired from his job the day after Christmas. As of January 1, 2012 we were in a whole different stage of life. Unemployed, uninsured, unmotivated.
Because of how well the Mister was paid, because of how unbelievably terrible my previous job was, I'd quit in June of last year. At the time, we transferred to the Mister's company health insurance. As of 1/1/12, we no longer had coverage.
Because of the fact that he'd always make more money than I would, in the business he's in, we decided I should wait to look for a job and see if he could get a job here so we wouldn't have to move to look for work. It took a couple months, but he started at a new place on April 1.
In March, a friend told me about a possible job that was opening in local government, in her office, that I'd be perfectly qualified for--it was in my field, I had just the right amount of experience. The only hitch--it wasn't going to be available for a few more months.
Since the Mister now had a job, and we had savings, I thought it'd be ok to wait for the new job. I thought that it would be pretty stupid to go look for a job to last me a couple months, just enough time to get me trained, and then leave it to go for this other job. I was sure I'd get the professional job--it was where I'd interned when I was in school, I was familiar with the office, it was a perfect job for me!
I contacted the person in the office in charge of the job and found out that they couldn't make the job announcement until the new budget went into effect--July 1.
In the meantime, the Mister's job wasn't as lucrative as his previous one. Comparably, there was less stress at the new job, but more stress about money. His wage was 60% less than he'd been making a year earlier.
July 1 came and went. I waited patiently, and then impatiently, for the job to be posted. Our savings was almost gone. Yes, I know, hindsight is kicking my ass right now.
I found out the job wouldn't be posted until August or later, so I joined a temp agency. I figured at least that way I'd still be available easily for the new job.
So, in August, I contacted a credit counseling organization. We were going to be late on our mortgage payment for the first time. I provided all the requested paperwork and we were told to wait to hear back. Yes, the organization is non-profit, and trustworthy.
The job finally got posted, and while I had reservations about getting my hopes up by applying, I finally submitted my application in mid-August. It was at this point that the ship started sinking...
The CC service didn't hear back from the mortgage company. Apparently the package they'd submitted didn't go to the right department or something. Earlier this month I was contacted by the mortgage company regarding the late payment. I told them that we were working with a CC company to do a loan modification. The mortgage company hadn't received any application for a modification on our account. I called the CC company, told them what I'd been told, and the agent I'm working with told me that she'd re-send the package. It wasn't officially received by the mortgage company until 9/11, a full 5 weeks after I originally gave the CC agent all the paperwork she'd requested.
Things in my friend A's life had been rocky earlier this month, problems with the kids, real-life stuff. I feel like a wedge has been building between us and I don't know how to deal with the change in our friendship.
A week ago, my local close friend B called me to talk about her hard times. She's a friend I've managed to keep since college--5 years ago--and we have a truly great friendship; we're both introverts, we both don't want/have kids, etc. Just a lot in common. Well, things have gotten shitty for her, so she's moving away. The one person I know I can always rely on for a hug is leaving. Ugh.
Then the eye thing happened. That whole drama still isn't over. In fact, it got worse this week. While on lunch at my recent temp job on campus, I noticed a similar-looking spot in my vision--this time in my left eye. The spots in my right eye had slightly diminished, though they're still there if I look for them. The new spot in my left eye was very obvious. Per doctor's orders, I called the eye doctor in town right away and they squeezed me in an hour after I called. In the time between realizing I had a new problem and when I got to their office, I had a very mild panic attack. I could breathe, but my chest felt tight and I couldn't focus on a damn thing. So thankful that they only needed me for answering phones and directing (very few) walk-ins.
The doc ran a test, dilated my eyes, ran more tests and finally told me: I see nothing wrong. The blood spots and swollen nerve in your right eye are no longer an issue and there's nothing I can see wrong with your left eye. He once again suggested I see a neuro ophthalmologist. I would, if I had insurance, or at least money to pay for it, but that's not happening right now. I know that even if I did have the money, I'd still have to have someone there to drive me from whatever random rituals of torture the specialist would want to do to me--my eyes would likely be too fucked up to drive myself anywhere.
Because of my high blood pressure at the time, the doctor ordered me to go off my birth control pills, start taking a daily aspirin, and see my primary doc about something for my blood pressure. I've stopped taking my 3-month cycle pills, started an aspirin if I don't already have a headache (stress likes to sit right in my shoulders), and the primary put me on a very light prescriptions for my blood pressure.
Now, as of today....
I'm a very, very unhappy basket case every month (instead of every 3)
I feel like I'm losing my closest friend (physically) and my closest friend (emotionally)
Financially, things are heading to the "extreme duress" category
And I officially got notice today that I'm not even going to be interviewed for the Dream Job. I waited for nothing, for no reason.
Hindsight--yes, I should've gotten a job as soon as the Mister lost his. And after he did get a job, I should've gotten a job then, rather than wait on the Dream Job.
I fucked up. I fucked up really bad.
If I were a drinker, I'd be drunk right now. If I were an emotional eater, I'd be binging. Instead, I'm rather nauseated. And I just want to go to bed.
I'm sure someday I'll look back at this time in my life and think that it only made me smarter/stronger/a better person. But right now, it fucking sucks.
Right now, I want to just get it all out and over and done with, so I can hopefully move on.
I messed up this year. Badly messed up.
The Mister was fired from his job the day after Christmas. As of January 1, 2012 we were in a whole different stage of life. Unemployed, uninsured, unmotivated.
Because of how well the Mister was paid, because of how unbelievably terrible my previous job was, I'd quit in June of last year. At the time, we transferred to the Mister's company health insurance. As of 1/1/12, we no longer had coverage.
Because of the fact that he'd always make more money than I would, in the business he's in, we decided I should wait to look for a job and see if he could get a job here so we wouldn't have to move to look for work. It took a couple months, but he started at a new place on April 1.
In March, a friend told me about a possible job that was opening in local government, in her office, that I'd be perfectly qualified for--it was in my field, I had just the right amount of experience. The only hitch--it wasn't going to be available for a few more months.
Since the Mister now had a job, and we had savings, I thought it'd be ok to wait for the new job. I thought that it would be pretty stupid to go look for a job to last me a couple months, just enough time to get me trained, and then leave it to go for this other job. I was sure I'd get the professional job--it was where I'd interned when I was in school, I was familiar with the office, it was a perfect job for me!
I contacted the person in the office in charge of the job and found out that they couldn't make the job announcement until the new budget went into effect--July 1.
In the meantime, the Mister's job wasn't as lucrative as his previous one. Comparably, there was less stress at the new job, but more stress about money. His wage was 60% less than he'd been making a year earlier.
July 1 came and went. I waited patiently, and then impatiently, for the job to be posted. Our savings was almost gone. Yes, I know, hindsight is kicking my ass right now.
I found out the job wouldn't be posted until August or later, so I joined a temp agency. I figured at least that way I'd still be available easily for the new job.
So, in August, I contacted a credit counseling organization. We were going to be late on our mortgage payment for the first time. I provided all the requested paperwork and we were told to wait to hear back. Yes, the organization is non-profit, and trustworthy.
The job finally got posted, and while I had reservations about getting my hopes up by applying, I finally submitted my application in mid-August. It was at this point that the ship started sinking...
The CC service didn't hear back from the mortgage company. Apparently the package they'd submitted didn't go to the right department or something. Earlier this month I was contacted by the mortgage company regarding the late payment. I told them that we were working with a CC company to do a loan modification. The mortgage company hadn't received any application for a modification on our account. I called the CC company, told them what I'd been told, and the agent I'm working with told me that she'd re-send the package. It wasn't officially received by the mortgage company until 9/11, a full 5 weeks after I originally gave the CC agent all the paperwork she'd requested.
Things in my friend A's life had been rocky earlier this month, problems with the kids, real-life stuff. I feel like a wedge has been building between us and I don't know how to deal with the change in our friendship.
A week ago, my local close friend B called me to talk about her hard times. She's a friend I've managed to keep since college--5 years ago--and we have a truly great friendship; we're both introverts, we both don't want/have kids, etc. Just a lot in common. Well, things have gotten shitty for her, so she's moving away. The one person I know I can always rely on for a hug is leaving. Ugh.
Then the eye thing happened. That whole drama still isn't over. In fact, it got worse this week. While on lunch at my recent temp job on campus, I noticed a similar-looking spot in my vision--this time in my left eye. The spots in my right eye had slightly diminished, though they're still there if I look for them. The new spot in my left eye was very obvious. Per doctor's orders, I called the eye doctor in town right away and they squeezed me in an hour after I called. In the time between realizing I had a new problem and when I got to their office, I had a very mild panic attack. I could breathe, but my chest felt tight and I couldn't focus on a damn thing. So thankful that they only needed me for answering phones and directing (very few) walk-ins.
The doc ran a test, dilated my eyes, ran more tests and finally told me: I see nothing wrong. The blood spots and swollen nerve in your right eye are no longer an issue and there's nothing I can see wrong with your left eye. He once again suggested I see a neuro ophthalmologist. I would, if I had insurance, or at least money to pay for it, but that's not happening right now. I know that even if I did have the money, I'd still have to have someone there to drive me from whatever random rituals of torture the specialist would want to do to me--my eyes would likely be too fucked up to drive myself anywhere.
Because of my high blood pressure at the time, the doctor ordered me to go off my birth control pills, start taking a daily aspirin, and see my primary doc about something for my blood pressure. I've stopped taking my 3-month cycle pills, started an aspirin if I don't already have a headache (stress likes to sit right in my shoulders), and the primary put me on a very light prescriptions for my blood pressure.
Now, as of today....
I'm a very, very unhappy basket case every month (instead of every 3)
I feel like I'm losing my closest friend (physically) and my closest friend (emotionally)
Financially, things are heading to the "extreme duress" category
And I officially got notice today that I'm not even going to be interviewed for the Dream Job. I waited for nothing, for no reason.
Hindsight--yes, I should've gotten a job as soon as the Mister lost his. And after he did get a job, I should've gotten a job then, rather than wait on the Dream Job.
I fucked up. I fucked up really bad.
If I were a drinker, I'd be drunk right now. If I were an emotional eater, I'd be binging. Instead, I'm rather nauseated. And I just want to go to bed.
Tuesday, September 18, 2012
Educational Living
As far back as I can remember, I loved school. I don't know if it reflects back on me trying to be the opposite of my siblings so I can make Mom's life easier, or if I just took to school like an otter to water. From an early age I was told by family that I was going to go to college. It was just a given.
My brother rewarded me if I did well in a semester, especially if I made the honor roll. I made the honor roll a lot.
Learning was fun to me. Yes, there were subjects I didn't excel in, but for the most part I enjoyed school. I didn't mean to be a teacher's pet, but I tended to be responsible and I liked most of my teachers, so I tended to thank them at the end of the year. I was kind of a short adult.
Junior high was hard. Not the classes--the classmates. I was picked on and made fun of. Kids can be such assholes.
In junior high, I discovered Home Economics and Art and Earth Science (though I was sure at the time that I didn't want a job in science). I got to learn how to bake in Home Ec. Something is greatly enjoy still.
Art was taught by my uncle, who wouldn't let anyone bully me in class.
And I got to TA Earth Science in 8th grade. My teacher was a former classmate of my Mother's. He was a goofy guy, and I really got a chance to start having fun in science.
By the time I'd reached high school, I was basically a goody goody. I liked learning for the most part, possibly because I learned things easily or, if things were more difficult to grasp, I had good teachers.
At 18, I was ready to give college a try. I got good grades in HS, mostly A's, and was pretty sure I'd be able to manage higher education. Boy, was I wrong.
Everything in college was hard. High school hadn't prepared me for the study habits necessary in college. Unless I had a project to work on, I almost never had homework in HS. In fact, I often studied for 5-10 minutes, total, before a big test, and still managed to pass easily.
In my first few college classes, I was supposed to read 50 or 60 pages of textbook before a lecture. What had been almost too easy in the past was now scarily hard. It didn't help that I was pining for the Mister at the time, either.
When I completed my freshman year of school in May of 2000, I ended up taking a year and a half off from school. The Mister and I were first in Canada, then back in the states with me being the sole provider because he couldn't work due to immigration timing.
Finally we were able to move back to my college town and I finally re-enrolled in January 2002. Slowly but surely, I developed study skills, and some people skills (to glean study skills from) enough to get my feet under me. I declared my major and things took off for me.
Once I declared, I really started to feel good about school again. It became, once again, something I enjoyed. I'm sure there were plenty of times when I got frustrated, overwhelmed, and wanted to throw in the towel. But I stuck it out and by the time I reached the upper-level classes of my major, I loved school. I was able to learn things that really interested me, speak with others who had it in common with me, and even connect with a few of my professors.
I know my academic advisor was disappointed I didn't go into grad school--she knew how passionate I was about physical geography and really thought I'd be a great teacher. By the time I graduated, I couldn't imagine sticking around longer and becoming masochistic enough to do grad school.
Which brings me to now....
Now, I've been out of school for 5 years.
Now, I still don't have a job in my field.
Now, I'm working mostly office jobs that don't seem to be satisfying my need to use my brain.
Now, I'm temping in an office on campus and the nostalgia of being back here is making me sigh with longing.
Now, I'm considering going back to school. For another degree, not graduate school.
Now, I'm questioning my sanity.
I'm not saying that office work isn't difficult sometimes, but I still sometimes get very frustrated that I have a valuable education that I don't get to utilize in the office setting. Such is the life for a lot of people in this town, I think. We get the education, graduate, but want to stay because the town itself is so nice.
No matter what path I choose for myself, I know that I'm still young enough to find a career that I can spend a lot of years working in. I just want to find one that doesn't make me think I wasted a lot of money and time on a useful, but under-utilized, degree.
My brother rewarded me if I did well in a semester, especially if I made the honor roll. I made the honor roll a lot.
Learning was fun to me. Yes, there were subjects I didn't excel in, but for the most part I enjoyed school. I didn't mean to be a teacher's pet, but I tended to be responsible and I liked most of my teachers, so I tended to thank them at the end of the year. I was kind of a short adult.
Junior high was hard. Not the classes--the classmates. I was picked on and made fun of. Kids can be such assholes.
In junior high, I discovered Home Economics and Art and Earth Science (though I was sure at the time that I didn't want a job in science). I got to learn how to bake in Home Ec. Something is greatly enjoy still.
Art was taught by my uncle, who wouldn't let anyone bully me in class.
And I got to TA Earth Science in 8th grade. My teacher was a former classmate of my Mother's. He was a goofy guy, and I really got a chance to start having fun in science.
By the time I'd reached high school, I was basically a goody goody. I liked learning for the most part, possibly because I learned things easily or, if things were more difficult to grasp, I had good teachers.
At 18, I was ready to give college a try. I got good grades in HS, mostly A's, and was pretty sure I'd be able to manage higher education. Boy, was I wrong.
Everything in college was hard. High school hadn't prepared me for the study habits necessary in college. Unless I had a project to work on, I almost never had homework in HS. In fact, I often studied for 5-10 minutes, total, before a big test, and still managed to pass easily.
In my first few college classes, I was supposed to read 50 or 60 pages of textbook before a lecture. What had been almost too easy in the past was now scarily hard. It didn't help that I was pining for the Mister at the time, either.
When I completed my freshman year of school in May of 2000, I ended up taking a year and a half off from school. The Mister and I were first in Canada, then back in the states with me being the sole provider because he couldn't work due to immigration timing.
Finally we were able to move back to my college town and I finally re-enrolled in January 2002. Slowly but surely, I developed study skills, and some people skills (to glean study skills from) enough to get my feet under me. I declared my major and things took off for me.
Once I declared, I really started to feel good about school again. It became, once again, something I enjoyed. I'm sure there were plenty of times when I got frustrated, overwhelmed, and wanted to throw in the towel. But I stuck it out and by the time I reached the upper-level classes of my major, I loved school. I was able to learn things that really interested me, speak with others who had it in common with me, and even connect with a few of my professors.
I know my academic advisor was disappointed I didn't go into grad school--she knew how passionate I was about physical geography and really thought I'd be a great teacher. By the time I graduated, I couldn't imagine sticking around longer and becoming masochistic enough to do grad school.
Which brings me to now....
Now, I've been out of school for 5 years.
Now, I still don't have a job in my field.
Now, I'm working mostly office jobs that don't seem to be satisfying my need to use my brain.
Now, I'm temping in an office on campus and the nostalgia of being back here is making me sigh with longing.
Now, I'm considering going back to school. For another degree, not graduate school.
Now, I'm questioning my sanity.
I'm not saying that office work isn't difficult sometimes, but I still sometimes get very frustrated that I have a valuable education that I don't get to utilize in the office setting. Such is the life for a lot of people in this town, I think. We get the education, graduate, but want to stay because the town itself is so nice.
No matter what path I choose for myself, I know that I'm still young enough to find a career that I can spend a lot of years working in. I just want to find one that doesn't make me think I wasted a lot of money and time on a useful, but under-utilized, degree.
Wednesday, September 12, 2012
Friendship
I have long held a selfish desire for a lifelong friend. My mom has lifelong friends--she's regularly in touch with people she's known since before I was born. Friends she can always rely on for a shoulder to cry on, a hand to hold, or someone to share a laugh with.
Likewise, in numerous movies, I've been shown how some people are able to be close across the country and through the years. And so I've wanted it.
Unfortunately for me, there's been no lifelong friend. I've had friendships here are there, but something always seems to pry the relationship apart.
Yes, I've got the Mister. But sometimes I really want a non-related friend's perspective to remind me of sanity.
In high school, I was an unpopular kid. I didn't drink, didn't smoke, didn't do drugs, didn't sleep around. I liked to stay home and read on the weekends.
I had a friend, a couple years older than me, who lost interest in me when she met her now-husband. He partied, she liked him, so she partied. It's high school, I can understand the immaturity of that relationship.
I had another friendship off and on in high school who put me down a lot. I'd mention a decision, she'd claim she'd never do that. She made fun of me with other people in her clique. Whatever.
College came along and I didn't really form any friendships at school until I was almost done. The one person I did start hanging out with outside of school was a couple years older than me with a husband and two kids. She tended to get drunk quite a bit--even peed in the middle of my street one night. Once again, I'm not a big partier....she stopped returning my calls.
A couple years later, Jo bumped into the Mister and then ended up calling me. We reconnected and started spending time together again. I tutored her oldest daughter on flute, even letting her use my own instrument. I loved her family, her 3 kids and menagerie of animals. I even thought her husband was cool. I thought we were close. I thought we had a good, strong friendship.
...and then Gunner died. The Mister and I decided to put Gunner to sleep. Two days before our housewarming party. Not the best timing ever. The following day, while moping and weeping, my friend called to tell me she wouldn't be coming to the party because her other friend, out of town, was having a meltdown and needed her. I didn't answer the phone, I wasn't ready to talk to anyone yet, so the message went to voicemail. I was cleaning the house, getting it ready for the party, and forgot to call her back or text her. So she assumed I was mad at her. She called me again the night of the party and left a message about how she was "sorry, but I have a friend in need, I'm so sorry I missed your party." Yes, she got snippy at me because I hadn't returned her phone call, and she'd assumed I was mad and not understanding of the situation.
Glad to know that she knew me so well.
In any case, I called her back, but my calls went unanswered as well, so I tried to calmly explain via voicemail that I wasn't mad at her, I'd been upset and hadn't wanted to talk or put on a happy face.
I haven't spoken to her in 2 1/2 years now. Her daughter and I still talk every now and then--she's still playing my flute and loving it. -sigh
So now here I am. I've finally managed to figure myself out, and learn to accept myself. I call myself an introvert, not as an excuse, but because I can no longer think that there's something wrong with me--I'm just different than a majority of people.
And I've somehow stumbled upon someone who continues to put up with me--from a few states away. I met Alex online a few years ago on a favorite author's fan site messageboard. She's a few years older than me, married with a couple of stepdaughters. She lives in the southwest. A complete opposite from me in a few things, most especially her faith.
She's somewhat of an introvert, though, so we can at least relate to each other that way. Our separate senses of humor seem to be from the same source somehow, too.
I can honestly say I've never known a better friend. This is the comrade my emotional self has been hoping for for years. She's pushed me to do things I'd regret not doing. She's allowed me to be there for her, be her shoulder to cry on, and it's wonderful. Because not only do I greedily want someone I can have a close friendship with, I want someone to be able to rely on me. It's hard when things get rough for either of us and all I want to do is give her a hug. The problem with me is, while introverted, if I connect with someone, I want to hug them. I'm a hugger. It's a sickness. My name is Mel and I'm a hugger.
Anyway. Alex has been there for me through good times, stressful times, scary times, joyful times and heartbreaking times. I've tried to be there for her during all those times in her life as well.
Sadly, we've only been able to meet up a couple of times. Her husband doesn't like me--I'm a bad influence. Me! He's an uptight jerk. But anyway...I hope she continues to call me her friend as time passes. Because a dark time in her life is becoming lighter and I'm afraid she'll outgrow me when she's completely happy once again. I want her to be happy, don't get me wrong. Even if it is with a twit that doesn't deserve her. But I know that happiness can mean she needs me less.
Yes, I know, I'm insecure and pathetic. Probably from all my fabulous experiences with "friends" over the years.
I'm so thankful for the internet. First the Mister, then a twisted sister. As long as I don't find a baby online, I'm satisfied. Because, really, that would be awfully freaky. Babies can't type.
Likewise, in numerous movies, I've been shown how some people are able to be close across the country and through the years. And so I've wanted it.
Unfortunately for me, there's been no lifelong friend. I've had friendships here are there, but something always seems to pry the relationship apart.
Yes, I've got the Mister. But sometimes I really want a non-related friend's perspective to remind me of sanity.
In high school, I was an unpopular kid. I didn't drink, didn't smoke, didn't do drugs, didn't sleep around. I liked to stay home and read on the weekends.
I had a friend, a couple years older than me, who lost interest in me when she met her now-husband. He partied, she liked him, so she partied. It's high school, I can understand the immaturity of that relationship.
I had another friendship off and on in high school who put me down a lot. I'd mention a decision, she'd claim she'd never do that. She made fun of me with other people in her clique. Whatever.
College came along and I didn't really form any friendships at school until I was almost done. The one person I did start hanging out with outside of school was a couple years older than me with a husband and two kids. She tended to get drunk quite a bit--even peed in the middle of my street one night. Once again, I'm not a big partier....she stopped returning my calls.
A couple years later, Jo bumped into the Mister and then ended up calling me. We reconnected and started spending time together again. I tutored her oldest daughter on flute, even letting her use my own instrument. I loved her family, her 3 kids and menagerie of animals. I even thought her husband was cool. I thought we were close. I thought we had a good, strong friendship.
...and then Gunner died. The Mister and I decided to put Gunner to sleep. Two days before our housewarming party. Not the best timing ever. The following day, while moping and weeping, my friend called to tell me she wouldn't be coming to the party because her other friend, out of town, was having a meltdown and needed her. I didn't answer the phone, I wasn't ready to talk to anyone yet, so the message went to voicemail. I was cleaning the house, getting it ready for the party, and forgot to call her back or text her. So she assumed I was mad at her. She called me again the night of the party and left a message about how she was "sorry, but I have a friend in need, I'm so sorry I missed your party." Yes, she got snippy at me because I hadn't returned her phone call, and she'd assumed I was mad and not understanding of the situation.
Glad to know that she knew me so well.
In any case, I called her back, but my calls went unanswered as well, so I tried to calmly explain via voicemail that I wasn't mad at her, I'd been upset and hadn't wanted to talk or put on a happy face.
I haven't spoken to her in 2 1/2 years now. Her daughter and I still talk every now and then--she's still playing my flute and loving it. -sigh
So now here I am. I've finally managed to figure myself out, and learn to accept myself. I call myself an introvert, not as an excuse, but because I can no longer think that there's something wrong with me--I'm just different than a majority of people.
And I've somehow stumbled upon someone who continues to put up with me--from a few states away. I met Alex online a few years ago on a favorite author's fan site messageboard. She's a few years older than me, married with a couple of stepdaughters. She lives in the southwest. A complete opposite from me in a few things, most especially her faith.
She's somewhat of an introvert, though, so we can at least relate to each other that way. Our separate senses of humor seem to be from the same source somehow, too.
I can honestly say I've never known a better friend. This is the comrade my emotional self has been hoping for for years. She's pushed me to do things I'd regret not doing. She's allowed me to be there for her, be her shoulder to cry on, and it's wonderful. Because not only do I greedily want someone I can have a close friendship with, I want someone to be able to rely on me. It's hard when things get rough for either of us and all I want to do is give her a hug. The problem with me is, while introverted, if I connect with someone, I want to hug them. I'm a hugger. It's a sickness. My name is Mel and I'm a hugger.
Anyway. Alex has been there for me through good times, stressful times, scary times, joyful times and heartbreaking times. I've tried to be there for her during all those times in her life as well.
Sadly, we've only been able to meet up a couple of times. Her husband doesn't like me--I'm a bad influence. Me! He's an uptight jerk. But anyway...I hope she continues to call me her friend as time passes. Because a dark time in her life is becoming lighter and I'm afraid she'll outgrow me when she's completely happy once again. I want her to be happy, don't get me wrong. Even if it is with a twit that doesn't deserve her. But I know that happiness can mean she needs me less.
Yes, I know, I'm insecure and pathetic. Probably from all my fabulous experiences with "friends" over the years.
I'm so thankful for the internet. First the Mister, then a twisted sister. As long as I don't find a baby online, I'm satisfied. Because, really, that would be awfully freaky. Babies can't type.
Thursday, August 30, 2012
Still Baffling
Well, this week certainly didn't go as I imagined it would.
While the gray spots in the field of vision in my right eye are definitely smaller than they were two weeks ago, they're unfortunately still there.
I was expecting a good progress report from the eye specialist on Tuesday. That didn't really happen...
My eyes were dilated once again--a nuisance more than anything--those drops f*ing sting! Then I was taken into the mad laboratory of my eye doc. His name is Dr. Adams. He's still friendlier now that I don't have a case of floaters. Why is he friendlier? Probably because I'm going to be giving him repeat business. Ugh.
So Dr. Adams goes after my eyes with that bright-like-the-sun test to view the back of my eye. Not a whole lot of talking until he finishes torturing my peepers extensively. Finally, the lights go back on--not that I could see much, since my eyes were still lost in bright-light-afterburn land--and he lets me sit back. Then he says, "Well, this is certainly a puzzle. I have to admit I'm baffled..." NO! DON'T BE BAFFLED, DAMN YOU!! TELL ME MY EYE ISN'T BROKEN ANYMORE AND I NOW HAVE SPIDEY VISION!..."because your eye looks completely normal now. The spots of blood are gone and your optic nerve isn't swollen anymore. Our options at this point are to have you get a lumbar puncture, see a neuro-ophthalmologist in Spokane, Denver, SLC or Seattle, or see a neurologist here. I'd really like you to see a neuro-ophthalmologist. Do you have any family in any of those cities?"
Why, yes, I do! In Spokane, I say. So he says he'll see if he can get in contact with the neuro-ophthalmologist (I never in my life thought I'd be typing out neuro or ophthalmologist as much as I have in the last couple weeks) in Spokane and get me seen.
Then he has me take another test that involves a bright flash and I return to bad-vision-acid-trip land again before sending me on my way. Yay for sunglasses!
After not hearing from him earlier, I decided to give the good doctor a call today. That's when I got more bad news.
The neuro-ophthalmologist he thought was available in Spokane is no longer there. I have to pick another option. Apparently N-O's are a very distinct specialty. They can only exist in metropolitan areas with populations of more than the entire state of Montana. The nerve!
At this point, I'm waiting to hear back from him with that contact info. I might end up choosing a city further away where I know someone and can visit them at the same time. I mean, really, if I have to get my eye tortured, and travel by myself (since the Mister is highly unlikely to be able to get time off again), I may as well make the best of the trip and hug someone I love.
I also managed to ask the good doctor if I could just see a neurologist here. He'd apparently been in contact with the local neuro because he told me that at this point, a neurologist wouldn't be able to tell nearly as much as an N-O. blah
So here's what I found out after I saw him, spoke to people who know stuff, and read up on things online:
I'd really, really like to not be an unexplainable case. There's just nothing more unsettling and somewhat frightening than having a health problem that doctors don't understand.
While the gray spots in the field of vision in my right eye are definitely smaller than they were two weeks ago, they're unfortunately still there.
I was expecting a good progress report from the eye specialist on Tuesday. That didn't really happen...
My eyes were dilated once again--a nuisance more than anything--those drops f*ing sting! Then I was taken into the mad laboratory of my eye doc. His name is Dr. Adams. He's still friendlier now that I don't have a case of floaters. Why is he friendlier? Probably because I'm going to be giving him repeat business. Ugh.
So Dr. Adams goes after my eyes with that bright-like-the-sun test to view the back of my eye. Not a whole lot of talking until he finishes torturing my peepers extensively. Finally, the lights go back on--not that I could see much, since my eyes were still lost in bright-light-afterburn land--and he lets me sit back. Then he says, "Well, this is certainly a puzzle. I have to admit I'm baffled..." NO! DON'T BE BAFFLED, DAMN YOU!! TELL ME MY EYE ISN'T BROKEN ANYMORE AND I NOW HAVE SPIDEY VISION!..."because your eye looks completely normal now. The spots of blood are gone and your optic nerve isn't swollen anymore. Our options at this point are to have you get a lumbar puncture, see a neuro-ophthalmologist in Spokane, Denver, SLC or Seattle, or see a neurologist here. I'd really like you to see a neuro-ophthalmologist. Do you have any family in any of those cities?"
Why, yes, I do! In Spokane, I say. So he says he'll see if he can get in contact with the neuro-ophthalmologist (I never in my life thought I'd be typing out neuro or ophthalmologist as much as I have in the last couple weeks) in Spokane and get me seen.
Then he has me take another test that involves a bright flash and I return to bad-vision-acid-trip land again before sending me on my way. Yay for sunglasses!
After not hearing from him earlier, I decided to give the good doctor a call today. That's when I got more bad news.
The neuro-ophthalmologist he thought was available in Spokane is no longer there. I have to pick another option. Apparently N-O's are a very distinct specialty. They can only exist in metropolitan areas with populations of more than the entire state of Montana. The nerve!
At this point, I'm waiting to hear back from him with that contact info. I might end up choosing a city further away where I know someone and can visit them at the same time. I mean, really, if I have to get my eye tortured, and travel by myself (since the Mister is highly unlikely to be able to get time off again), I may as well make the best of the trip and hug someone I love.
I also managed to ask the good doctor if I could just see a neurologist here. He'd apparently been in contact with the local neuro because he told me that at this point, a neurologist wouldn't be able to tell nearly as much as an N-O. blah
So here's what I found out after I saw him, spoke to people who know stuff, and read up on things online:
- Some overweight people can have increased intracranial pressure, and increased pressure on their spinal column. This pressure can lead to what happened to me. The only problem? If that were the case, it should've happened to both eyes. How to see if this pressure is indeed increased? The lumbar puncture. Which I'd like to avoid at all possible costs--I've seen House, I know it can only lead to other unexplained symptoms!
- My MRI looked normal. Good? It should be good, but there are apparently some things that don't show up on an MRI until they're very advanced. Hence the decision to send me to another torturer AKA specialty doctor for further tests.
- Dr. Adams keeps telling me that if anything worsens suddenly with my vision, to call him immediately. I'm not sure if this is to scare the shit out of me or reassure me. I mean, is he worried that my eye might actually explode suddenly? Or is the current eye status possibly a forewarning of further problems he's not telling me? Oh god, is my eye going to start deflating and ooze out of my eye socket, followed by liquified brain matter!?
I'd really, really like to not be an unexplainable case. There's just nothing more unsettling and somewhat frightening than having a health problem that doctors don't understand.
Saturday, August 18, 2012
An Interesting Case
Unfortunately, depressingly, distressingly (enough adjectives?) we had quite a night on Wednesday. My vision went a little haywire at lunch, but seemed to go back to normal quickly enough. It wasn't until I got off work at 5 that I noticed a spot in my vision. Or a couple spots, I suppose. It appeared somewhat in the shape of a snow angel.
I explained it to the Mister and he thought it was a migraine without the pain. I called The Mom and she just didn't know. Then I called Cathy, my old physical therapist (who is also, luckily, a friend), who deals with neurological work. I explained to her what was going on, and that the spots appeared in only one eye. She suggested that I get it checked out, she was concerned and mentioned the optic nerve.
Obviously, I'm aware of the red flag that was waving due to the symptoms of only one eye--one half of my brain could be in danger.
So off we went to Urgent Care at 6. I was seen by a doctor who went over what I was dealing with, checked my eyes, then stepped out saying, "I'm going to make a phone call to see if you need to be seen tonight"
Well, that's certainly nothing to feel freaked out about!
We waited and waited and waited another hour before he heard back from the eye specialist on call at the ER. The eye doc thought what I had was a case of floaters, but said he'd see me anyway, at 8:30 in Belgrade.
Sooooo....off we go to Belgrade. We get there, he unlocks the office door for us, no greeting, not even a "hi", just "here's some paperwork and read this notice and sign the sheet that says you've read the notice".
I was asked questions about family history of disease, medications I take, had I ever had anything like this before, etc. The doctor that I saw was an MD, not an OD. He's an eye physician, not an ophthalmologist.
Then the torture began.
He numbed my eyes to check the pressure. He put drops in to dilate. He put other drops in for reasons I don't know. Bright lights for a long time while he looked into my eyes. When he finished the exam, I asked "So, am I imagining it? Are they floaters?" And he said, "No, there's something going on--your optic nerve is swollen and there's specks of blood in your eye." Ok, so, what does that mean? Well, he mentioned the possibility of one thing, which could be related to MS (let the screaming inside my head begin), then he mentioned something else and said he needed to look in his books to see what other possibilities it could be.
At this point, I look to the Mister with some genuine fear. When a doctor has to consult books to try to diagnose your ailment, it's not a good feeling. And my stomach just dropped when he said MS.
The doctor came back to the exam room/torture chamber and told me he wanted to get me in for an MRI. He suspected that my eye could possibly get worse, ultimately leading to blindness, if I wasn't treated immediately. His best guess: high blood pressure.
At that point, my bp was ranging around 160ish/105ish. I suspected it was that high mostly due to the sudden stress I was under, but the doctor thought it needed to be treated in case it'd caused the eye problem in the first place.
Have I mentioned that we have no health insurance right now?
So when the good doctor told me I needed to go to the ER, a mild sense of hysterical panic set in. The Mister and I looked at each other in horror, but we both knew it was necessary because, frankly, I like my eyes working.
The doctor then called ahead to the ER and told the doctor there, "I've got a very nice 31 year-old woman I'm sending in with an interesting case...." I'd gone from a person with possible floaters who didn't even rank a hello to "very nice" because of my "interesting case".
When he got off the phone with the ER, he told me he wanted me to call his office first thing in the morning and make an appointment--he'd see me ASAP. He mentioned how cruel I probably thought he was, since he knew I'd be in the ER for awhile, but he needed to do more tests.
It was after 10 PM when we checked in at the ER. The service was pretty bad--I wasn't seen by a nurse or doctor for an hour after we'd been given a room. I realize I was probably of lower priority than any accident cases, but the eye doctor had seemed concerned enough that I was sure I should be seen immediately. In the meantime, I called the office I was temping for to let them know that I wouldn't be in first thing in the morning. I tried calling the temp agency as well, but there was no answering service for them.
When someone finally did come in, it was a doctor who was going off her shift--she'd been the one the eye specialist had spoken to. She told me that she was passing me on to the next on-shift doctor and had told him what my situation was.
A PA came in soon after to ask me more about my symptoms. When she learned of my currently dilated eyes, she was quick to ask if she could take a look. Apparently dilated eyes aren't something available on a regular basis--eye care specialists must be the only ones allowed to dilate. So after having already had my eyes shined with bright lights for half an hour, she got to have her look, too.
I was then told that I was going to have an MRI, including a few scans with contrast dye, an EKG, urine test, and full blood screen.
Thankfully, it wasn't long after that that I was given a mild sedative to help me calm down a little--my heart rate was up for some reason? hm--and then blood was drawn before the IV was put in. The Mister had left to let the dogs out--we'd been out since 6 and it was now close to midnight--so I suffered alone, but the staff were all very, very nice. The MRI tech showed up with a wheelchair and pushed me down to the MRI room. I got as comfortable as I could, then the test started. At least I finally know where techno beats are from--if you've never had an MRI, be assured that it's loud. The MRI itself lasted about an hour. I managed to almost fall asleep, even with it being so loud, and the sedative had kicked in so I was able to feel calm, but not loopy.
When the tech wheeled me back to my room, we discovered the Mister had returned--and laid out on my bed to fall asleep. Poor guy was exhausted, he'd had very little sleep the night before as it was.
The MRI results showed that everything was normal--although I really don't consider my brain normal. The EKG results were normal, too. Blood and urine both managed to be normal, as well. My blood pressure had lowered as I'd calmed down, so they didn't give me anything for it. I was hooked up with a saline bag, just to hydrate me again since I'd had almost no fluids since 6. The PA came back to tell me to see my primary doc in the morning, then unhooked me and sent us home. It was after 2 AM.
I woke up just before 7. So. tired. I called the temp agency at 8 on the dot, told my supervisor of the situation and that I'd be in touch after my tests. The primary doc's office couldn't get me in until 12:30, but the eye specialist could see me at 9:30.
When I got in, I was dilated again. Talk about drops that burn! No wonder he'd numbed my eye the previous night. Ow. He said they hurt worse because I had tired, dry eyes.
More tests, more bright lights. The good news was that my optic nerve swelling had gone down and that the specs of blood seemed to be going away. The gray spot in my vision was now somewhat smaller--more like a butterfly than the snow angel. The eye doc told me to stop taking my birth control to hopefully lower my blood pressure, he also wanted me to start taking an aspirin a day in case my blood was trying to clot. I scheduled a follow-up in 2 weeks. Then when I tried to speak to the office manager about the inability to pay the full bill at once, she got bitchy. She treated me like I was a piece of trash. It's not like I'd been expecting this strange situation. I almost started crying. I'd had maybe 4 hours of sleep, hadn't showered, was still freaked out, and here's this lady making me feel like shit for not having funds available to keep her happy.
Anyway, I then had my primary doc appointment--except she wasn't in this week, so I saw another doctor in the practice. Once again, she wanted a chance at my dilated peepers while I was there, so my tired, sore eyes got one last blast with bright light. She agreed with the recommended removal of birth control pills and told me to return in a couple weeks, as well, to see my usual doctor. She didn't seem too concerned with my blood pressure because all of my previous stats in the office had shown a normal bp. I think she agreed with me that it was spiked due to the stress of the situation.
I have to take my blood pressure for the next few days to see if it lowers. The gray spots are smaller now, shaped like cat eyes.
It feels so weird that this happened to me. Friends and family are all freaked out by it, and very worried. I, on the other hand, even having gone through it, feel more stress about the bills I'll have to deal with.
Universal health care? One can dream....
Monday, August 06, 2012
A Bite of Meat to Eat
Humans have gnawed on, chomped through, and bitten off pieces of meat from animals for millenia. Early humans in North America were hunters & gatherers, not farmers. They followed the food source--herds of bison or other quadripeds--where they moved as the seasons allowed.
And, let's face it, our teeth tell the story of a meat-eating species. Our front teeth scrape meat off bones, our molars grind through the tissues to make food easier to swallow.
I've been a meat-eater my whole life. I grew up in an agricultural community that was surrounded mostly by big cattle ranches. I ate beef a lot.
I also ate my fair share of wild game--elk, deer, antelope, etc.
Part of growing up in an agriculture-based community in the middle of prime wild-game habitat means learning that hunting benefits the animals as much as the humans.
In elementary school we played a game that showed the significance of hunting on herds of animals. If controlled hunts weren't allowed, herds could grow and grow, habitat could be over-used and eventually animals would either starve to death or disease would wipe out large numbers. Mind you, by third grade, I'd already seen quite a few carcasses hung up in the shop and gotten a chance to poke dead body parts with morbid fascination. What can I say? I was a tomboy.
Since then, as an adult who's gotten more education in the broader world of biology, I've realized hunting plays an even more important role in our society today. Elk and deer meat have filled our freezer season after season. It's cheaper, leaner and healthier for an ecosystem than beef.
Through my internet travels, I've recently discovered a very disturbing infographic.
Please read it--it's very enlightening. (I promise it doesn't take long)
Infographic by CulinarySchools.org
After seeing this, I was inspired. I'd already ordered a cleanse package--something to do for myself for a week and kickstart/reboot my system. I've never done a cleanse before, but I'd heard they were uncomfortable and difficult. This system promised no starvation or discomfort.
I got all the required foods--beans, veggies and fruit. All plant-based food were accepted. No meat, no dairy, no processed sugar. No caffeine (not a problem for me) or other stimulants.
As someone who's a protein fanatic, I knew it would be hard. I protein. It gets me through the day. But the cleanse was going to make me feel better. And it was just a matter of willpower, right? Right.
Riiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiight.
Day 1: Wednesday. I start my morning off with a quinoa breakfast dish--made with almond milk, cinnamon and fruit. Finegreatgood. Yes, quinoa is full of healthy stuff, but it's not exactly packed with protein--and I've always started my day with an egg or two.
But I could do this. I would do this, damn it.
For lunch, I have a not-awesome, not-gross bowl of veggie-packed soup. It was ok. Still not a lot of protein, just a few lentils.
By dinner, I was absolutely starving. I made myself a shake with blueberries and bananas and oatmeal before making the actual cleanse-shake.
Throughout the day, I was cold. By the evening, while the Mister was sweating his way through the scooter fix, I was wrapped up in a blanket. I was ready for bed early, to end the torture.
Day 2: Thursday. I start the morning with oatmeal instead of quinoa. Try to liven it up with some cinnamon, berries and honey. It's definitely better tasting than the previous breakfast.
Lunch meant more soup. Seriously hungry by this point. Trying to remind myself that I have the willpower, I can DO IT. Ugh.
By dinner, I was fed up. I'd eaten lots of fruit through the afternoon, but I really, really needed to chew through some meat. A roast beef sandwich from the Pickle Barrel sounded unbelievably marvelous. So I ordered one and almost passed out from bliss after the first bite.
At that point, I'm telling myself I can do two meals early in the day that are plant-based, but I need meat at dinner. NEED IT.
Day 3: Friday (I can't believe these days just keep showing up in order!).
I begin again with oatmeal. By lunch, however, I'm feeling not great. The cleanse has me taking two pills with each of the two early meals. I feel like my pills are piling up in my gut, not moving or breaking down, and it hurts to take a deep breath. I guzzle water, hoping to wash them along. I eat more fruit, hoping to push them along. No luck. Don't even remember dinner.
Needless to say, there was no Day 4. I gave up. I have no willpower. My body craves meat. From my stomach, to my metabolism, to my mouth. I love the time it takes to really chew through a bite of meat. My stomach adores the time it takes to break down complex proteins. My metabolism can't get enough of the energy meat provides. Once again, I wax poetic about flesh.
So now I face guilt. The guilt of being another person who is pushing the planet deeper into a climate spiral we have little chance of changing.
Yes, I know that eating meat is bad for the environment. Yes, legumes are much better for the earth as well as our bodies. Red meat in particular is bad for the human body.
I guess my only option at this point is to refuse beef that comes from unidentifiable sources. The local co-op makes a point of listing the ranch their grass-fed beef comes from, as well as the family it supports.
I can also make the conscious decision to rely mostly on wild game. Eat it throughout the year until our freezer is empty and then give other options a go.
I hope someone, somewhere, has seen the infographic and has the willpower I don't to give up industrialized meat. If nothing else, at least I tried. I just wish that thought comforted me more than it does....
And, let's face it, our teeth tell the story of a meat-eating species. Our front teeth scrape meat off bones, our molars grind through the tissues to make food easier to swallow.
I've been a meat-eater my whole life. I grew up in an agricultural community that was surrounded mostly by big cattle ranches. I ate beef a lot.
I also ate my fair share of wild game--elk, deer, antelope, etc.
Part of growing up in an agriculture-based community in the middle of prime wild-game habitat means learning that hunting benefits the animals as much as the humans.
In elementary school we played a game that showed the significance of hunting on herds of animals. If controlled hunts weren't allowed, herds could grow and grow, habitat could be over-used and eventually animals would either starve to death or disease would wipe out large numbers. Mind you, by third grade, I'd already seen quite a few carcasses hung up in the shop and gotten a chance to poke dead body parts with morbid fascination. What can I say? I was a tomboy.
Since then, as an adult who's gotten more education in the broader world of biology, I've realized hunting plays an even more important role in our society today. Elk and deer meat have filled our freezer season after season. It's cheaper, leaner and healthier for an ecosystem than beef.
Through my internet travels, I've recently discovered a very disturbing infographic.
Please read it--it's very enlightening. (I promise it doesn't take long)
Infographic by CulinarySchools.org
After seeing this, I was inspired. I'd already ordered a cleanse package--something to do for myself for a week and kickstart/reboot my system. I've never done a cleanse before, but I'd heard they were uncomfortable and difficult. This system promised no starvation or discomfort.
I got all the required foods--beans, veggies and fruit. All plant-based food were accepted. No meat, no dairy, no processed sugar. No caffeine (not a problem for me) or other stimulants.
As someone who's a protein fanatic, I knew it would be hard. I
Riiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiight.
Day 1: Wednesday. I start my morning off with a quinoa breakfast dish--made with almond milk, cinnamon and fruit. Finegreatgood. Yes, quinoa is full of healthy stuff, but it's not exactly packed with protein--and I've always started my day with an egg or two.
But I could do this. I would do this, damn it.
For lunch, I have a not-awesome, not-gross bowl of veggie-packed soup. It was ok. Still not a lot of protein, just a few lentils.
By dinner, I was absolutely starving. I made myself a shake with blueberries and bananas and oatmeal before making the actual cleanse-shake.
Throughout the day, I was cold. By the evening, while the Mister was sweating his way through the scooter fix, I was wrapped up in a blanket. I was ready for bed early, to end the torture.
Day 2: Thursday. I start the morning with oatmeal instead of quinoa. Try to liven it up with some cinnamon, berries and honey. It's definitely better tasting than the previous breakfast.
Lunch meant more soup. Seriously hungry by this point. Trying to remind myself that I have the willpower, I can DO IT. Ugh.
By dinner, I was fed up. I'd eaten lots of fruit through the afternoon, but I really, really needed to chew through some meat. A roast beef sandwich from the Pickle Barrel sounded unbelievably marvelous. So I ordered one and almost passed out from bliss after the first bite.
At that point, I'm telling myself I can do two meals early in the day that are plant-based, but I need meat at dinner. NEED IT.
Day 3: Friday (I can't believe these days just keep showing up in order!).
I begin again with oatmeal. By lunch, however, I'm feeling not great. The cleanse has me taking two pills with each of the two early meals. I feel like my pills are piling up in my gut, not moving or breaking down, and it hurts to take a deep breath. I guzzle water, hoping to wash them along. I eat more fruit, hoping to push them along. No luck. Don't even remember dinner.
Needless to say, there was no Day 4. I gave up. I have no willpower. My body craves meat. From my stomach, to my metabolism, to my mouth. I love the time it takes to really chew through a bite of meat. My stomach adores the time it takes to break down complex proteins. My metabolism can't get enough of the energy meat provides. Once again, I wax poetic about flesh.
So now I face guilt. The guilt of being another person who is pushing the planet deeper into a climate spiral we have little chance of changing.
Yes, I know that eating meat is bad for the environment. Yes, legumes are much better for the earth as well as our bodies. Red meat in particular is bad for the human body.
I guess my only option at this point is to refuse beef that comes from unidentifiable sources. The local co-op makes a point of listing the ranch their grass-fed beef comes from, as well as the family it supports.
I can also make the conscious decision to rely mostly on wild game. Eat it throughout the year until our freezer is empty and then give other options a go.
I hope someone, somewhere, has seen the infographic and has the willpower I don't to give up industrialized meat. If nothing else, at least I tried. I just wish that thought comforted me more than it does....
Thursday, July 19, 2012
Non-Knickery Knackery
I have recently realized something not very profound. It's probably not something most people think about. I'm sure to some women, it would rank up there with me not liking chocolate or diamonds.
I don't like knick knacks. I don't collect anything in the knick knack category. I have no shelfs on which to put non-essential items. I can count on both hands how many unfunctional (I totally made up that word) things I have around the house that collect dust: 3 Fenton vases that my Mom got for me (she wants me to collect stuff like her), an antler sculpture, and 3 copper/viney votive candle lamps. The Mister has a couple of Cowboys helmet stuff, but otherwise we're pretty tchotchke-free. I don't know why that is. I'm not a very decorative-friendly person. We don't decorate for any of the holidays, including Christmas. I prefer function to form? I have a globe that collects dust, too, but I spin it every now and then and look at the basic info it provides.
I'm just not a chick. I'd like to put up some cool maps on the walls, but otherwise they're pretty bare, too.
That's not to say I don't have shelving in the house--I do. It's just full of books. Mmm, books. Of those, I must have a few hundred. And that's ok.
I don't like knick knacks. I don't collect anything in the knick knack category. I have no shelfs on which to put non-essential items. I can count on both hands how many unfunctional (I totally made up that word) things I have around the house that collect dust: 3 Fenton vases that my Mom got for me (she wants me to collect stuff like her), an antler sculpture, and 3 copper/viney votive candle lamps. The Mister has a couple of Cowboys helmet stuff, but otherwise we're pretty tchotchke-free. I don't know why that is. I'm not a very decorative-friendly person. We don't decorate for any of the holidays, including Christmas. I prefer function to form? I have a globe that collects dust, too, but I spin it every now and then and look at the basic info it provides.
I'm just not a chick. I'd like to put up some cool maps on the walls, but otherwise they're pretty bare, too.
That's not to say I don't have shelving in the house--I do. It's just full of books. Mmm, books. Of those, I must have a few hundred. And that's ok.